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When a Pet Dies

Losing an animal we love hurts. Whatever you feel is okay.

It’s okay to feel sad. 💜

Your feelings are okay

When a pet dies, you might feel sad, or cross, or a bit mixed-up inside. You might cry, or not cry — both are okay. There is no wrong way to feel.

Gary, Rosie, Elvis and Mimi would understand. Animals know that love is real, and that missing someone means you loved them lots.

Things that can help

  • Talk to a grown-up who loves you about how you feel.
  • Draw a picture of your pet, or their favourite thing.
  • Make a little memory box, or plant a flower for them.
  • Do the Calm Corner breathing if your feelings feel big.

Remembering is a kind thing

You don’t have to forget your pet to feel better. You can keep remembering the happy times — the cuddles, the funny noises, the games. That love stays with you. 💛

Grief doesn’t follow a script

The loss of a pet is a real loss — often a first experience of grief. It can come in waves: numbness, sadness, anger, guilt, and then, gradually, gentler memories. There’s no set order and no “right” timeline, and it can hit harder than people expect.

If your pet was part of your daily routine — feeding, walking, just being there — the quiet where they used to be can feel loud. That’s normal.

Guilt and “what ifs”

Many people replay decisions afterwards — a vet visit, a choice about treatment, being at school when it happened. Grief looks for reasons. Being kind to yourself matters: you cared, and caring is what love looks like.

Things that help

  • Mark it: a photo, a written memory, a small ceremony, a keepsake.
  • Talk to someone who gets it — a friend, family member, or teacher.
  • Keep routines gently going; rest when the waves come.
  • Know it eases. The sharpness softens into remembering.

If you need more support

Winston’s Wish is the UK’s childhood bereavement charity. They have free, expert support for children, young people and the adults caring for them.

Visit Winston’s Wish →
Freephone helpline: 08088 020 021 · This page offers gentle support and signposting — it is not a substitute for talking to a trusted adult or a professional.
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